What happens when you hurt a borderline?

What happens when you hurt a borderline?

A person with BPD is often unable to trust their own feelings or reactions. Lacking a strong sense of self leads to a sense of emptiness and sometimes a sense of being non-existent, and this is another reason BPD hurts so much.

Can a borderline ex still talk to an ex?

You break up, you call up an old ex who is still “in love” with you, and hooking up is easy. I constantly see people pointing their fingers at Borderlines for being promiscuous and talking to their exes. But the truth of the matter is that most people do this.

Do you think you have borderline personality disorder?

If you ever said: “I think I have borderline personality disorder”, you might be on to something. Thousands of people live with BPD and have no idea what is ruining their lives. Borderline personality disorder may seem daunting, but it often gets better with treatment.

What to do when borderline ex blames you for everything?

Whether you admit it or not, you are 50% of the relationship. Therefore, I always teach people to just accept that fact that no matter what happened, you are 50% responsible. So when a Borderline starts to blame you for this and that, accusing you of things that are flat out wrong, just brush it off.

Do you have to have thick skin to be borderline ex?

This also means that you must have 10 inches of thick, steel skin. Words and insults should bounce right off you and over your shoulder. You can’t be affected by the opinions and words of others.

When to know if your boyfriend has borderline personality disorder?

If you feel in your gut that something is very “off’ with your relationship and the ways your boyfriend reacts to seemingly benign incidents, trust those feelings and explore the symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder further.Readingthrough a full description of BPD symptoms will surely ring bells if your boyfriend is suffering from it.

Is it embarrassing to live with borderline personality disorder?

When you live with a health condition, oftentimes there are some unwanted — or “embarrassing” — symptoms you have to learn to live with. This is something many people who live with borderline personality disorder (BPD) are familiar with.

Can a BPD loved one have an ex?

This and so much more is what I help my BPD loved one clients explore and work through. So many people, on the other side of BPD – who do not have BPD – do certainly get enmeshed with a partner (on-again-off-again Ex then partner again) and because this is so painful and confusing an incredible amount of focus is put on the person with BPD.

What causes a person to have borderline personality disorder?

The underlying issue in people with Borderline Personality Disorder is the same for men and women: a fear of abandonment, often caused by abuse or neglect experienced in childhood.