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Why is my mom always complaining?

Why is my mom always complaining?

When a mum ‘always complain’, especially ‘about everything minor’, it just signifies that real communication is not there. Both parties are just speaking aloud what they perceive and there is no real connect at the deeper level, ie. the level where there is trust, respect and congruence.

When does a mother become a difficult mother?

Having just spent the last three years writing about difficult mothers, I am well aware that a mother’s impact is greatest in early childhood, but the power of this bond is such that at any age difficulties with a mother can wreak havoc on one’s life.

Who is the default carer for a mother in old age?

Since women live longer than men, it is more often a mother who requires care (unlike her husband, she has no wife to care for her). The default carer tends to be a son or daughter, and these grown-up children may well spend more years caring for a parent than they did for their children.

What’s the dilemma of taking care of elderly parents?

I see it with my own 63-year-old daughter, who wants me — her 87-year-old mother — to be in touch when I leave town, even if only for a few days or a week, who calls when she’s traveling though she never did before, whose anxiety announces itself over the phone lines when we haven’t talked for a while: “Are you OK?”

Which is the best book for difficult mothers?

Terri Apter’s book Difficult Mothers: Understanding and Overcoming Their Power (Norton) was published in May; follow the discussion on @TerriApter #difficultmothers. If your lawn is strangling you, hire a professional landscaper. The content of this field is kept private and will not be shown publicly.

Having just spent the last three years writing about difficult mothers, I am well aware that a mother’s impact is greatest in early childhood, but the power of this bond is such that at any age difficulties with a mother can wreak havoc on one’s life.

Since women live longer than men, it is more often a mother who requires care (unlike her husband, she has no wife to care for her). The default carer tends to be a son or daughter, and these grown-up children may well spend more years caring for a parent than they did for their children.

I see it with my own 63-year-old daughter, who wants me — her 87-year-old mother — to be in touch when I leave town, even if only for a few days or a week, who calls when she’s traveling though she never did before, whose anxiety announces itself over the phone lines when we haven’t talked for a while: “Are you OK?”

What kind of person is my elderly mother?

As a mother she has dominated every aspect of her children’s life. She has dominated her childrens’ lives with little concern for anyones’ feeling but her own. She is now in a wonderful assisted living and her dementia (I think) has illuminated her personality into a person who I can no longer bear to be around.